Resources to empower you
Relationships & Individuals
How to get what you need in a relationship
Doctors John and Julie Gottman’s research helps us understand how happy couples communicate their needs with each other. Here are the 3 things you can do to get what you need in a relationship 1. Talk about how you feel If there is something they feel unhappy about,...
Qualities to look for in a potential partner
For a single person, it can be challenging to know what to look for in a new partner when dating. There can be a lot of feelings: excitement, awkwardness and everything in between. So, what are some things we know make a person a good partner? Logan Ury’s research,...
Attachment Styles in Relationships
There is a lot of talk about attachment styles in relationships these days and the challenge that certain attachment combinations can present. Attachment styles are predominantly formed in early childhood based on a child’s perception of their parent’s availability,...
Recovery from an affair
Recovery from an affair requires the rebuilding and reestablishment of trust. This is an incremental process that happens over time through an accumulation of actions that demonstrate a prioritisation of the partner and the relationship. It beginnings with full...
How do affairs happen?
You may be the friend or relative of someone who has recently disclosed infidelity or betrayal in their relationship, or you may be one of the partners in the relationship where this has happened, having either discovered or disclosed the betrayal. Either way, you are...
Conflict – the core of intimacy
What are your beliefs about conflict in a relationship? Many people, especially those who have grown up in volatile, high conflict homes believe conflict is bad, and lack of conflict is good. Depending on how a parent or caregiver has behaved, a person may even find...
Helpful and harmful things in a relationship – The Four Horsemen
Often, the belief about whether a relationship is good or bad is an overall feeling or sentiment. What are the things that contribute to this overall feeling? Doctors John and Julie Gottman have done some remarkable research on intimate relationships and have...
What makes a good relationship work?
When I first meet a new couple, I often ask them what they think makes for a good relationship. Sometimes they find this to be an interesting question and have to think about their answer. I also ask clients who are dating what they are looking for in a relationship,...
How is Gottman Method Couples Therapy different from other couples’ therapy?
As a Gottman Therapist it’s not uncommon to meet new clients who have already seen one or more couples therapists. So what is different about Gottman Method Couples Therapy? The most significant difference is the evidence-based research behind the therapy. Doctors...
Does Cognitive Processing Therapy help with Trauma?
Who created Cognitive Processing Therapy (CPT)? CPT is a cognitive therapy that was created by Dr Patricia Resick to help those who experienced traumatic events and still experience symptoms to recover. In her early career, Dr Resick worked with victims of rape and...
Some Resources for Relationships & Couples
Videos
How to Complain Without Hurting Your Partner - Video
The Easiest Way to Improve Your Relationship - Video
Invest in Your Relationship - Video
What predicts the demise of a relationship - Video
PDF Downloads
Sound Relationship House - PDF download
Six hours to a Better Relationship - PDF download
Books
Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work - Book
What Makes Love Last - Book
Eight Dates - To keep your relationship happy, thriving and lasting- Book
Authors - John Gottman & Julie Schwartz Gottman with Doug Abrams & Rachel Carlton Abrams.
Purchase via The Gottman Institute