Resources to empower you
Relationships & Individuals
How to Rebuild Connection in a Relationship
Feeling More Like Housemates Than Lovers? When couples stop spending intentional time together, emotional distance starts to grow. You may feel lonely, unimportant, or like you're just co-parenting or sharing a house, not really connected as partners. This is common...
How to handle conflict around a partner’s ‘bad habit’
We all have bad habits. Leaving our dishes on the bench rather than putting them in the dishwasher, leaving dirty clothes on the floor, or hiding an empty biscuit packet in the back of the fridge in hope that no-one notices they’ve all been eaten. These things can be...
How to talk about Sex with your partner
Have you ever had an awkward conversation about sex with your partner? Have you ever wanted to bring something up but worried about hurting their feelings or being rejected? Research by John Gottman indicates that couples who can talk about sex well, tend to have a...
Is trauma from a previous relationship affecting your current relationship?
Pretty much everyone wants to have a good relationship. Sometimes the best intentions go awry, and sometimes one partner isn’t quite aware of how they’re impacting the other. But sometimes relationships go badly. Whether a previous relationship involved infidelity,...
How to identify Domestic Violence
Awareness about domestic violence has expanded a lot in recent years, such that many governments now recognise the problematic nature of coercive controlling behaviours. While one person having more control in a relationship, based on gender, was thought to be normal,...
Betrayal Trauma
Betrayal trauma is the natural trauma-like response a person experiences when they find out their partner has been unfaithful, either sexually or emotionally. Betrayal trauma can include symptoms like intrusive images in one’s mind about their partner with another...
Handling stress in difficult interactions with your partner
If you’ve been in a relationship for any length of time, you will know that, despite all good intentions, eventually, an interaction will go side-ways and stress levels will rise. All couples will have difficult moments, particularly when one or both partners are less...
Accepting your partner for who they are
The beginning of a relationship is blissful and joyous. As time goes on, we get to know our partner more deeply and become more committed to the relationship. While small things might become a bit annoying, more fundamental differences can become difficult to...
Should you do Marathon couples therapy?
What is Marathon Couples Therapy? Marathon couples therapy is an intensive style of couples therapy where, following a thorough assessment of the relationship, the treatment phase is usually done over two full consecutive days. Issues within the relationship are...
Setting your relationship intentions for the new year
As work winds up and the year comes to a close many begin to reflect on the year past and the year ahead. If there have been any challenges within your relationship, you may be particularly focused on this facet of your life and contemplating what you would like for...
Some Resources for Relationships & Couples
Videos
How to Complain Without Hurting Your Partner - Video
The Easiest Way to Improve Your Relationship - Video
Invest in Your Relationship - Video
What predicts the demise of a relationship - Video
PDF Downloads
Sound Relationship House - PDF download
Six hours to a Better Relationship - PDF download
Books
Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work - Book
What Makes Love Last - Book
Eight Dates - To keep your relationship happy, thriving and lasting- Book
Authors - John Gottman & Julie Schwartz Gottman with Doug Abrams & Rachel Carlton Abrams.
Purchase via The Gottman Institute